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| Elizabeth Badejo |
It is interesting to discover that while
some women prefer to date or marry older men, there is also a buzz in
the number of young men who prefer to settle down with older women. The
feedback from last week’s piece was quite revealing and informative so
much that I was reprimanded for not striking a balance between the
sexes; that if some women can find reasons to fulfil happiness in what
is considered inappropriate, there are several young men out there also
who find so much fulfilment from dating older women too. Although the
biological statement has always been that a man would marry a younger
woman and as the head of the house, it is only reasonable that he is
older. Ideally, the young woman is more fertile and able to give him as
many children as he desires.
More to offer
The percentage of men marrying older
women has increased over the last two decades as both tend to
enjoy
equal, open and exciting relationship. The older woman is more stable
and focused on what her needs are and also able to walk her young
partner through his set goals too.
A young man in his twenties once said
that many young women his age do not understand themselves, do not know
what they want and not able to communicate it too. On the other hand, he
evaluated the older women as sure, secure and experienced and that is
where he chose to pitch his tent. Then I wondered why his generation has
suddenly become slutty and boring; it’s obvious that his motives are
clearly self interest which may ruin the relationship in the end.
Equality of the sexes
Unfortunately, the growing gender
equation today has led to more equality between the sexes as a good
number of aspiring young men are challenging this old-fashioned belief
for men. But quite frankly, just like the younger woman seeks an older
man for comfort and security, the younger man also wants his sanity
which he is likely to find with an older woman. ,
Vulnerability
The wider the age gap the more you need
to be aware of factors that can challenge your relationship or marriage.
A man who still has an ambition of fathering children may start to have
second thoughts many years into his relationship with an older woman
which hadn’t posed such an issue in the beginning. In a number of cases,
such men end up having children with other women and may even go
further to end the marriage.
In an effort to keep up with the younger
man, an older woman’s confidence may also be affected so much that she
may have to rely on the artificial to keep up her appearances and the
energy which made her the obvious choice at first.
Written by Elizabeth Badejo
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